Some people never grow up. While others grow up way too soon, you know – the proverbial old soul who’s way ahead of the curve in psychological maturity. Or maybe they’re just born that way.
When we’re in high school, we don’t really know what we’re doing, we’re just too young to even know at this point! But what I find disturbingly-fascinating is how the provincial mentality that prevails upon high schoolers makes its way into all echelons of society; be it politics, corporations, or groups of friends even.
What is the high school mentality?
It’s what I would define as signs of emotional immaturity. People bullying/picking on each other, gossiping, spreading rumors, intimidation, making fun of those who stand out or don’t conform, the list could go on and on… you probably know what I’m talking about, right?
And so, where does this mentality come from?
It usually stems from that fertile-breeding ground which is insecurity. Insecure people are the most likely to engage in those types of behaviors which belittle others. Because it makes them feel better about themselves and gives them the illusion that there’s nothing wrong with them, and that other people are just as bad as, if not worse than, them.
And through my studies and observations of psychology or people in general, it’s quite clear that some people are less insecure than others.
Why is that? What causes some people to be[come] insecure?
Well, the first possible reason is family. The way that you’re raised and the kind of environment that characterizes your upbringing will almost always be the main/fundamental reason as to whether or not you grow up into a healthy and mature individual.
It may sound obvious, but people who are brought up in a loving and nurturing family are more likely to do better as adults, while kids who get neglected by their parents or are raised in a divorced/conflicted household are more likely to be rebellious, partake in substance abuse, and/or struggle in adapting to society.
But it’s not always about the family. Other factors which can come into play are external events, relationships with other people – whether they be romantic or platonic friendships – unforeseen accidents, diseases, or just life in general…
In any case, I digress.
To be honest, sometimes I switch back and forth between this high school mentality which I berated so much in this post and being the ideal role model that I’d like to be.
So I guess that would be someone who’s: kind, generous, honest, compassionate and caring towards others, respectful, confident, willingness to be helpful, considerate, cool, emotionally stable, and responsible of one’s actions.
D’you ever feel that way? Whether you’re living up to your potential? To be the best possible version of yourself, day in, day out?
At the end of the day, I guess all we can do is to be human. In the meantime, I have the distinct impression that, as we grow older, we become more fine-tuned to who we really are and can incarnate that ideal version of ourselves more consistently. After all, practice makes perfect.